"Be Honest You're Not That Into
Him Either: Raise Your Standards and Reach for the Love You
Deserve"
by
Ian Kerner
Excellent
book..... a must read for every woman... if you read "He's just not that
into you"... you must read
"Be
Honest You're Not That Into Him Either: Raise Your Standards and Reach
for the Love You
Deserve
Book Description
He's not that Into You, the
"Be
Honest You're Not That Into Him Either: Raise Your Standards and Reach
for the Love You
Deserve
I like the way the author surface the truth of why most women cannot have
sex/physical intimacy like a man and why it is better for a person to wait
if she wants to have a steady, loving relationship. Sex/Physical intimacy
is a topic every man and woman wants to know the most but it is a topic our
society talks very little (I mean in a psychological point of view). Most
women do not want to wake up in the morning feeling they were promiscuous.
Or, women, from a biological perspective, become more emotional bonded with
the man when sex/physical intimacy is involved.
I like how the author surfaces another side of the fence about how women
get into a self-defeating position in dating. You're not that into him either
if:
1. You believe there is no good man left NOTE: This is our self-defeating
excuse to stay in the same position so we can be "lazy" of not finding the
love we deserve
2. You need someone to be into you to serve your ego and to cope your loneliness
NOTE: Ladies, please let go of your ego because your ego does not bring you
happiness
3. You lost faith in finding love NOTE: You were hurt a couple times and
you are convinced that love is not there |
4. Your biological clock is clicking and you want to be with someone (regardless
whether he is compatible with you or not)
Women in general want happy marriage and kids. However, sometimes their eyes
are caught up with conforming to the society (the little picture frame of
a "happy family", the wedding, the diamond engagement ring, coupling, "to
be with someone") and lost sight around the most important message about
life - which is creating a life for self and others that is content, happy
and peaceful. It is so true that women are better off being single than rushing
into the idea of marriage just to show off to others how wonderful her life
is (because divorce happen so often in life nowadays). Are you falling in
love with the idea of marriage, play girl, coupling because it is "cool"
according to the society? Or are you falling in love for the man you are
very into? Or are you falling in love with a man because you believe he will
change for you because of love? Find the answers in
Be
Honest You're Not That Into Him Either: Raise Your Standards and Reach
for the Love You
Deserve
Who cares whether you are married or not? Who cares whether you have an "ideal"
family where there must be a husband and children? What if you can create
an external picture of a family to everyone else (meaning nice house, nice
cars, "perfect" husband and "perfect" children) while you feel hollow, shallow,
empty, broken and lost inside? Isn't it just like human beings living on
Earth but pretending that they are living in the moon every day we wake up
in the morning? Ladies, snap out from that illusion of the "happily ever
after" fairy tale picture because life is full of ups and downs and at the
end, you can only be content and at peace within yourself when you let go
of that unrealistic, one dimensional fairy tale happily ever after dream.
The fairy tale is just an escape of the reality because of that sense of
emptiness we all have. Why do we women let the word marriage and coupling
control our life is my question? Is it because of our parents? Is it because
of the society? Is it because of the magazines/media that promotes coupling
and marriages (imagine how much you are supposed to spend in a wedding?)
What is the point to create that picture when it becomes unrealistic, at
the end we human beings become empty inside?" ~An Appreciative Reader of
the book,
Be
Honest You're Not That Into Him Either: Raise Your Standards and Reach
for the Love You
Deserve
READER'S COMMENTS ON
Be
Honest You're Not That Into Him Either: Raise Your Standards and Reach
for the Love You
Deserve
This is a great book.. if you read "he
is not that into you" and you felt a little bit helpless or discouraged..
then
Be
Honest You're Not That Into Him Either: Raise Your Standards and Reach
for the Love You
Deserve
RE:
Be
Honest You're Not That Into Him Either: Raise Your Standards and Reach
for the Love You
Deserve
I caught myself
smiling several times while reading this book (and I read it in a few hours)
because the author seems to be talking to me about me. I have a bad habit
of holding on to guys I am not really that into just because of fear of being
alone and not having a sex life. I also hold on to guys that are appealing
mostly because they are so in love with me, but once they go the other way
I freak out.
I am recently separated from my husband. He used to worship me but for some
reason I just didn't feel the same for him. He was perfect in every aspect,
but I couldn't love him the same way back. I ALWAYS had doubts about my feelings
for him, but because HE loved me so much, I ended up settling. Now he went
the other way... says he doesn't want to be married, doesn't know what he
wants, and I started to freak out and convinced myself he was the man of
my dreams.
This book was a wake up call in the sense that it made me see that I settle
too much and I want what I can't have, but if I really think about it, I
didn't even want it in the first place.
My husband is playing a lot of games with me, just as men do in the dating
world, and I was feeling pretty overwhelmed. After reading the writer's wife
chapter, I was reminded that love should be easy. There shouldn't be any
"Rules." "The Rules" have to happen naturally. You aren't available because
you REALLY have stuff to do and other things to think about.
If love is not reciprocated, that already is not an interesting
person.~MariMari
Thank You Ian Kerner for writing
Be
Honest You're Not That Into Him Either: Raise Your Standards and Reach
for the Love You
Deserve
Being the first four chapters are about sex, complete with all the
definitions...slang and otherwise; if you are on the conservative side, this
book is not for you.~Eyes Wide Open (LV)
RE:
Be
Honest You're Not That Into Him Either: Raise Your Standards and Reach
for the Love You
Deserve
Great book....any lady out there that has ever settled for Mr. "Right now", spent time contemplating why he's "Just not into you", must read this book...Its just the other side of the coin..."He's just not that into you" is a must read as well...read them back to back..and i guarantee that the next time you start or attempt to start a relationship, your eyes will be wide open..Good Luck!" ~Single in NY
Sometimes you need someone else
to open your eyes to the obvious.
Be
Honest You're Not That Into Him Either: Raise Your Standards and Reach
for the Love You
Deserve
In the book "Be Honest You're Not That Into Him Either: Raise Your Standards and Reach for the Love You Deserve," Dr. Ian Kerner takes an in-depth look at the world of sex, relationships that aren't going anywhere and the rough cycle of dating, preparing women with the right tools to change their dating habits. Kerner shows women how to find the right guy by never settling for just anyone, and encourages them to get the best man they feel they deserve."~ABC News"
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